The Savior Complex Syndrome is a rarely spoken about condition. Here is more information about Savior Complex Syndrome (SCS).
The Savior Complex Syndrome is a condition or an attitude where an individual feels the constant need to offer help to others. This means, a person suffering from SCS will have the sudden urge to help another person the moment they realize they’re in danger. In this case, they are willing to go every depth and way possible to help others.
How to know you have SCS
- Unable to say no to others.
- Inability to set boundaries for yourself
- The irresistible urge to help out someone because you feel “they need you”
- Putting others needs ahead of your personal needs.
People suffering from SCS may have dreams and nightmares which involves people being in danger. For example; when you ask an SCS person to help you out with something, they begin to have weird dreams about how badly you need them and even worse, the possibility of you being in danger. These dreams and nightmares makes it hard for them to ignore you, hence they go the extra mile to protect you at all cost.
Childhood experiences such as, growing up in an environment where one was responsible for taking care of others can result in this complex. Additionally, individuals with low self-esteem may seek validation and self-worth through others.
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Generally, people with SCS are naturally good and caring people. People take advantage of them when they notice their weakness without their knowledge.
The Savior Complex Syndrome can manifest in many ways, however it is mostly evident in relationships. Individuals with SCS may be attracted towards people they perceive as “needing help or rescue”. They often find themselves in relationships with toxic people. They are likely to find themselves in relationships with individuals who have addictions, emotional issues or other problem, believing they can or must ‘save’ them.
People close to a person with a savior complex just assume that person will take care of them, without any regard to their needs. It can lead to a toxic, one-sided relationship; your boundaries and feelings are not regarded.
The Savior Complex Syndrome is a state of mind; therefore it is not an official mental disorder. However people with mental conditions such as bipolar disorder, delusional disorder and schizophrenia may get it…..
In as much as the desire to help others is admirable, SCS can have negative impact on the individual and their relationships. It can lead to weariness; as the individual prioritizes others’ needs over their own. Also, it can create an imbalanced relationship, where one person is always giving while the other just receives.
It is advisable to find solutions to this condition. This involves understanding and addressing its root causes. Therapy and counselling can be beneficial in helping individuals explore their motivations for wanting to ‘save’ others. It is also crucial to set boundaries as learning to find self-worth outside the role of “savior”.
The Savior Complex Syndrome is mostly mistakened for the Messiah Syndrome. However, the two have similar symptoms but, the Messiah Syndrome is more about religion. Where; individuals feel they are like Jesus Christ (The Messiah); hence they tend to behave like him and believe they can ‘save’ Christians.
The opposite of The Savior Syndrome is The Martyr Complex. Hopefully, we’ll explore more about that another time.
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The thing is; most people having The Savior Complex Syndrome do not even know they have it.
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Sometimes I feel I have SCS, who knows? What if you do too?
By; Annabella Araba Essilfie.